Today I’m going to officially dip my toes into beliefs. Food beliefs, specifically.
Our beliefs are extremely important – they shape the view we have on the world. This is true for all relationships we have; with ourselves, food, money, other people etc. Experiences we have boil down to our persperctive, beliefs we’ve developed as children!
Our beliefs are extremely important - they shape the view we have on the world. Click To Tweet
As a certificed life coach, I’m super passionate about finding limiting beliefs & getting rid of them – so that we can move forward in life. It’s fun & powerful process.
Beliefs we develop are involved into everything going on in our life. Therefore, it really is extremely important to get rid of the limiting ones that are no longer serving us. Something we must recognize is – just because we believe something, doesn’t mean it’s true. More often than not, we don’t consider this fact. We just take beliefs we’ve learned from the events + people in our childhood & carry them through life, without spending much time questioning them.
However, questioning our beliefs is crucial!
Although having limiting beliefs doesn’t mean we’re screwed for life, it doesn mean we should spend some time challenging them + getting rid of them
This is true for many things in life & one of these is food.
I grew up with an overweight mother (hi mom!) & spent my whole life watching her complaing about being overweight, feeling bad about it, blaming the pregnancy & whatever other external circumstances, etc. – all while overeating at basically every meal.
What she never considered is tackling deeper issues underlying her behaviour. She never took resposibility to solve the problem she was facing – the real one, deeper than her overeating behaviour. She didn’t work on her beliefs + identitity.
Therefore, overeating -> complaining -> dieting -> suffering -> overeating etc. became a standard. It became expected behaviour & as a result, she accepted it as her identitity.
Of course, living with her for the most of my life, what I eventually learned about food + being a woman is – fight with pounds, overeat, blame it on external circumstances, feel fat, diet, etc.
I genuinely believed vicious circle of dieting is completely normal way of being a woman. Never once did I consider there could be more to life than dieting in the spring for the summer body & overeating when warmer clothes are required again (when nobody could see how “fat” I was).
I genuinely believed vicious circle of dieting is completely normal way of being a woman. Click To Tweet
I remember a particular scene, when I moved in with my love. We were eating lunch and, I was devouring the plate + the pan clean, while he ate ate & then stopped, WITHOUT eating everything from the plate, leaving just a few more bites.
I was shocked, like: “What are you doing?! Eat those last few bites, come on!!”
(Note; if I had a penny for every time I heard this particular sentence, I’d be a millionaire)
He casually answered: “I’m not hungry anymore.”, picked up his plate & went to the kitchen.
Guys, I was PERPLEXED. He stopped eating just because he’s not hungry?!?!?! But there’s more food?! What kind of a monster does this?!?!?!
I just couldn’t grasp the insanity of this concept.
Now I finally get it!
You see, the same happened to many of us. Growing up, we watched people we loved & copied them. We learned what certaing things mean in life & how life is supposed to be lived. We formed beliefs.
If we grew up in an environment where we learned that being a woman means having a negative body-image, overeating, dieting, obsessing about food + weight – it’s completely expected we formed some distorted beliefs about food.
What I want you to know, however, is that we all have ability to get out of this nasty circle. Each of us can choose to release our negative beliefs & let them go. Doing this creates space for a fresh, healthy relationship with ourselves + food.
We all have the power to turn our lives around.
Each of us can choose to release our negative beliefs & let them go. Doing this creates space for a fresh, healthy relationship with ourselves + food. Click To Tweet
Sure, it may take some time & energy. However, you do have that energy in you – after all, think about how much time & energy it took to obsess about weight, food, various diets, hating yourself etc. – it’s wonderful, because it’s a clear proof you do have the power & energy.
The only thing you need to change is focus. Instead of focusing on diets, restriction & hating yourself, you can now choose to focus on freeing yourself from all beliefs that led you to think you’re not good enough & that are holding you back from accepting + loving yourself.
You can start right now by making a decision. You’re just a choice away.
Make a decision to tackle deeper issues, one by one.
Take out your journal & write it down. It’s important because decision is the first step. If you don’t claim your power to make a decision, how do you expect to take resposibility for anything else?
With making a decision & taking resposibility for yourself, comes a sense of empowerment – this is what we aim for. I want you to know you have all the power & everything you need to create a life you desire. Right now, in you.
Whenever you notice a limiting beliefs surfacing, challenge it. Question it. Asking yourself – Why do I think this is true? Is this always true? How did I learn this is true? Is it possible that this beliefs is not true at all & is just holding me back? – is life changing! Prove your beliefs wrong. Then you are free to replace them with more empowering ones.
If you don’t claim your power to make a decision, how do you expect to take resposibility for anything else? Click To Tweet
Our beliefs determine all the thoughts we think. The thoughts we think determine our feelings & the feelings determine our actions.
Once we challenge & change our beliefs, thoughts, feelings & behaviours become much easier to tackle. Therefore, it’s crucial to start as high on the ladder as possible.
Once we challenge & change our beliefs, thoughts, feelings & behaviours become much easier to tackle. Click To Tweet
(Side note; think about how this is true by connecting it with diets – they lead us to change our behaviours, but don’t consider any upper level of change. This is one of the reasons they fail so easily.)
I have a wonderful guide to evaluate your thoughts in my free resources library – you can download it & use the exercise to challenge every single negative thought + belief you ever had.
Take resposibility & use the exercise often – it’s very simple. Building a loving relationship with ourselves doesn’t have to be complicated. But it must be done consistently.Building a loving relationship with ourselves doesn’t have to be complicated. But it must be done consistently. Click To Tweet
What’s your biggest takeaway? What are your beliefs about food?
Are you taking resposibility for your choices?
Share your journey with me & remember, I’m here for you!
Lots of love,