As you may know, I’m a big fan of being coached & being around incredible people who inspire you & take you to the next level with every single conversation you have with them. Luckily, I have a bunch of these amazing people in my life, with whom I connect at least weekly & I’m beyond grateful for that – every single one of these people gives value without even saying a word, just with their energy.
That’s why I’m never gonna get tired of saying – be SUPER careful who you’re with, because that good ol’ “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with” is TRUE. However, that’s a subject for another time.
Today I wanna talk about self-discipline & how it connects to self-love.
And, recently, while on a call with my girlfriends, we were discussing what we will be focusing on in the coming period to make sure we thrive.
What I decided that day, joining the call right after a morning of working on my goals with my coach/friend, was self-discipline.
How does self-discipline connect to self-love?
You see, what I realised was that, while self-compassion & taking it easy + slow are crucial parts of self-love, so is self-discipline!
Self-discipline means showing up for yourself & your dreams even if you don’t feel like it.
It means showing up for your wellness, business, relationships – even when you’d rather be snuggled in your little blanket watching Netflix.
This decision to show up for YOUR goals, your vision, everything that matters to you even when it gets hard & even when it’s not comfortable is as important for self-love, as is taking it easy.
I believe there’s a time and place for everything – polarity is how Universe works. The whole nature is seasonal – and while we sometimes have seasons of rest & relaxation to rejuvenate, having seasons of showing the F up & doing stuff that’s hard but you know is gonna push you to the next level is equally important.While we sometimes have seasons of rest & relaxation to rejuvenate, having seasons of showing the F up & doing stuff that’s hard but you know is gonna push you to the next level is equally important. Click To Tweet
Funny enough, getting your ass up & moving towards your vision when you’d raher stay in bed is what’s gonna build your self-respect, confidence, trust you have in yourself to show up for yourself, and ultimately self-love.
There is this balance between being kind to yourself and making sure you don’t overdo it AND on the other hand, making sure you do it, making sure you do show up for yourself.
There is this balance between being kind to yourself and making sure you don’t overdo it AND on the other hand, making sure you do it, making sure you do show up for yourself. Click To Tweet
Sure, in the beginning, self-discipline is challenging because it requires taking action that’s most probably not comfortable (truth to be said – most of the actions that are going to uplevel our lives are not comfortable, and if they are, you’re not pushing hard enough). It requires being though, strong & showing up although it’s almost painful.
But guess what – the more you show up for yourself, the more you’re going to trust yourself that you will show up.
When you’ve done something once, twice, then 10 times – after a while, it becomes a part of what you do & your confidence grows.
Let’s say it’s gym (gym’s clearly the easiest example) – first time it’s horrible & you barely drag your ass there & back. Next time you don’t even wanna go back. But you know that your intention is to live 100 years & be able to dance and walk and take care of yourself till the last day. You know that in order to be able to do that, you need to have a strong, nourished body. So although you’d rather stay with your blanket & Netflix, you get up, put your shoes on & go.
Now when you’ve done it twice even though you didn’t want, the third time you’re already gonna think – well, I know I don’t feel like it right now, but I didn’t feel like it last 2 times either & I did it anways and it was awesome because I was proud of myself. Then you get up, put your shoes on & go.
Now, by the time you’ve done this 15 times (or whatever the number may be for you), you’ll just be getting up, putting your shoes on & going – without having to discuss what’s your intention and if you feel like it.
And you’re gonna trust yourself to show up that day, the next day and every other day. Because that’s just what you do.
The same is true for any other aspect of your life, and even with learning any new skill – all you gotta do is show up & keeping on showing up for yourself. It’s just like a muscle – the more you do it, the stronger you get.
And guess what happens when you consistently show up for one area of your life?
You see progress you’ve made.
You build self-confidence.
You trust yourself to show up for yourself.
The best part? This expands beyond the original goal – because when you know you can show up for yrouself consistently in one area of your life, you begin to wonder – where else can I start showing up for myself?
This is how self-discipline goes hand in hand with self-love.Self-discipline goes hand in hand with self-love. Click To Tweet
Of course, it’s important to understand that every journey, no matter what your goal is, has its ups and downs – we need to learn to embrace both & be compassionate towards ourselves when we don’t show up as powerfully as we wanted. Balance is the key.
Making progress, growing, developing ourselves, living our purpose, makin’ it happen & still taking time to just be, relax, chill is what makes a good life. There truly is space for both. And one shouldn’t exist without the other – if we just push through, hustle hustle hustle, show up & do the work, without taking time to relax & without being kind to ourselves – we’re missing out. Just as we do if we spend our time sitting on the couch meditating & not actually moving our cute little butts to DO anything about the goals we wanna achieve.
So, I wanna invite you to be consciouss of how you’re balancing the two out.
I wanna invite you to unapologetically show up for yourself, take tons of action, pursue everything you wanna achieve, while still being compassionate towards yourself & allowing yourself not to be “perfect” + give 100% all the time.
You’re enough, just the way you are.
What area of your life are you showing up for?
Is self-discipline your friend or enemy?
I wanna know, share it in the comments!
Lots of love,